Love Is Not a Pizza – You Can’t Just Order It

Let’s be honest—most of us wish love worked like a food delivery app. Open your phone, scroll through some options, and boom! A perfect relationship arrives at your doorstep, ready to enjoy.

Unfortunately, love doesn’t work like that. If it did, we'd all be married to pepperoni by now. 

Instead, relationships are more like cooking together a homemade meal. You need good ingredients (kindness, trust, patience), the right recipe (communication, laughter, understanding), and a willingness to deal with a little mess along the way. And just like cooking, if you ignore the important steps—like stirring the pot or setting healthy boundaries—you might end up with something burned, bitter, or completely inedible.

So, let’s get real. What does a good relationship actually look like?

1. It’s Not About Perfection. It’s About Being Real.

There is no such thing as a "perfect" relationship. If you’re looking for a partner who never annoys you, never disagrees with you, and always knows exactly what you want—well, I have bad news. You’re looking for a robot, not a human.

The truth is, real relationships are messy sometimes. There will be misunderstandings. Someone will forget an anniversary. Someone will leave dirty socks on the floor for the hundredth time. (And yes, it will drive you crazy.)

The strongest relationships aren’t the ones without problems. They are the ones where both partners choose to solve problems together. If something is bothering you, talk about it instead of waiting for your partner to magically guess. (Spoiler alert: They probably won’t.)

If they do something that annoys you, ask yourself: “Is this really important?” Some battles are worth fighting, others are just about toothpaste caps and toilet seats. Choose wisely!

And most importantly—laugh. Laughter makes even the toughest days easier. If you can joke about the little annoyances, your love will last much longer. 

2. Communication: The Superpower of Happy Couples

You’ve probably heard this a million times: “Communication is key.” But what does that really mean?

Well, how many times you had this:

Your partner seems upset. You ask, “What’s wrong?” and they say, “Nothing.”But you KNOW it’s not nothing. You can feel the storm coming. You start replaying every conversation in your head, wondering what you did wrong. Did you forget the milk? Did you say something weird last night?

This is what happens when couples don’t communicate properly. Instead of being honest, people expect their partners to just “know/ guess” what’s wrong. This never ends well. So here’s the simple truth: If something is on your mind, say it. But say it with kindness without causation.

Instead of: “You never listen to me!” → Try: “I feel unheard sometimes. Can we talk?”

Instead of: “You don’t care about me!” → Try: “I need more attention from you. Let’s spend some time together.”

See the difference? One starts a fight, the other starts a conversation.

3. Respect: The Secret Ingredient That Changes Everything

Love without respect is like coffee without caffeine—pointless and disappointing.

What does respect means?

• Listening when your partner speaks (not just waiting for your turn to talk).

• Accepting differences (you don’t have to love their weird hobby, but don’t make them feel bad about it).

• Giving them space when they need it (love is important, but so is alone time).

• And most importantly, respect means never making your partner feel small, unimportant, or unworthy. If you truly love someone, show it through your actions, not just your words.

4. The Golden Rule: Be the Partner You Want to Have

This is simple but powerful: Give what you want to receive.

• Want more love? Show more love.

• Want more kindness? Be kinder.

• Want more respect? Give respect.

It’s easy to blame our partners for everything that goes wrong in a relationship. But sometimes, we need to take a step back and ask, “Am I being the best version of myself in this relationship?”

No one is perfect, and you don’t have to be. But small changes can make a big difference.

Final Thoughts: Love Is Not a Pizza, But It Can Still Be Delicious

So, no. Love is not something you can order, pre-made and ready to go. It takes time, patience, effort and hard work . But when it’s right, love is warm, comforting.